When going through tough times, we often find ourselves in a negative mindset, with thoughts running around in our messy mind. It may feel like a heavy weight, or a burden on our shoulders. The thoughts take us over, and we find ourselves going where it takes us – which, in most cases, may not always be so pleasant.
In times like this, it is easy to withdraw from others and avoid letting them know what is going on. There is a fear of judgment from others, to let them see the reality of our situation, and to face even more negativity. Often, in these situations, we feel alone and isolated.
Just like you, I know I have been there before. Alongside many others.
So how do we bring ourselves to the point where we confide in someone about what we are going through?
Like many other processes, this can take stages. Before even getting to the action stage, we need to realise that there is a problem. Something is triggering us, and we are not coping well internally. This may even play out externally through various actions or coping mechanisms, such as drinking or withdrawing from others. By having awareness of our problems, this paves the way to prepare ourselves to act.
Before any change can even take place, having that individual awareness allows us to say that we have a problem. We are moving away from the denial and into a space where we are preparing ourselves to address it. The first thought may be, “I need help”; we are not alone in that thought.
When we are at that point of needing help, confiding in someone can relieve some of the burden that we are carrying. Whilst this may be for some people, it may not be for others. At this point, it would be up to each of us to be true to ourselves and take that step to seek out what is helpful for us. The important thing to remember is that by taking this step, we are moving forward at our own pace to see the light again.
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